My Two Cents||Resolutions and Plans

Hello everyone, welcome back to my blog and if you are new here…. You are very welcome😊. 

Its the last day of the year and there’s a lot of speculation as regards the new year. People are beginning to talk about resolutions, people making plans for the new year(am guilty of this🙈)….with everyone trying to make the best of the coming year and generally just be better at who/what they are and do respectively.

Why am I writing this post? Well, I just really want to share my two cents concerning making plans and resolutions for a new year.

I’d like us to know that we really don’t need to beat the past year’s mistakes, accomplishments and progress( like yes, its okay to celebrate and all but keep it minimal)… Why? because there’s a whole lot more of opportunities the new year will birth, new, maybe better opportunities. We just need to recognise and grab the opportunity.

Also, realise that you are still the same person as you were the year before ….and just because you’re in a new year doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a new you. No. I say if you don’t make a conscious effort to change some of the things that you actually do not like about yourself, you’d still remain in that same old spot you were, year in year out.

Sorry to disappoint you, but just as I have come to the realization of it that if you don’t make moves, the moves won’t make you. You have to take a step towards progress before anything can happen. Plus, don’t just make a move… Make a Smart move💁, think clearly, and implement.

The God Factor- some of us just plan forgetting the God factor. Truth is, you may not know what God’s plan is for you, but whatever you plan…carry God along in your Prayers. Prayer is the key to all doors…. PRAY. May our prayers be answered🙏. 

In a nutshell, avoid making plans/ resolutions based on your emotions as it will wear off after the month of January(am being honest). Now, you don’t want to make short term resolutions/plans, do you?

Okay guys, so that’s my two cents about planning/making new year resolutions….I hope you enjoyed reading as much as I did writing it. What do you think? I look forward to reading your comments.

Don’t forget to like, comment and follow the blog. You can also hit me up on social media @iamashabee (Instagram and Twitter).

 Thank you so much for the support thus far, I really appreciate you all and 2018 promises to be a better year for us🙏. I love you all❤❤❤

Happy new year in advance🎉.

4 Tips For a Flawless Hydrated Skin this Harmattan

Hello, everyone…. Welcome back to my blog and if you are reading for the first time, you are very welcome. 

I know its been a minute, have been occupied with life, at some point it was just the inability to come up with something to write😓…. It will get better hopefully.

In today’s post, I’d be talking about the Harmattan season which I believe is creeping in already. With the cold mornings, low temperature, sunny afternoons and dusty roads as signs of it creeping in. Coming with its own favors, like low temperature that makes breeding for mosquitoes almost impossible thereby reducing the incidence of malaria.

The skin, usually dry with accompanying cracking of the lips, sole of the feet and even the skin itself. I’d be sharing with y’all how to achieve that flawless hydrated skin in this harmattan season.

 They include;

-Drink Water: This is a very important tip, apart from the weather condition…. It is very healthy for you to do this. It helps the skin maintain its natural glow and of course,in this weather condition when the sun is intensified in all its glory thereby making you easily fatigued and tired, it’d help you stay hydrated.

Shea Butter in Picture Above

– Use Moisturizers: Applying moisturizers will help reduce the dryness of your skin. Am a lover of all things natural, so I’d recommend that you use Shea butter and/or essential oils like Coconut oil, also because they come with SPF protecting your skin from sun damage. You can also make use of Vaseline to avoid cracked lips and soles.

Picture from @anike_herbalsolutions….

– Use Sunshades: As I earlier mentioned in the first tip, in this season the sun is intensified in all its glory, therefore you would want to protect your eyes from the sun rays. Also, to protect your eyes from sand particles from the dust.

The Sun did not come to play….Neither did I😊

– Carry a Handkerchief: To protect your nose from sniffing in the dust into your respiratory system.

That’s it for this post guys, kindly share with me in the comment section other ways you know to achieve a flawless hydrated skin this season apart from the ones mentioned above, I’d be glad to read them all…. Also, don’t forget to like,and follow me too.

See you in my next post guys…. 

Merry Xmas in advance🎉

Love,

Ashabeé❤

22 Life Lessons

Hello everyone, welcome back to my blog. If you’re new here, welcome to Ashabeé family😊.

So, last week was my birthday, remember I mentioned it here (the excitement and all, lol). Thank y’all so much for all the wishes, y’all made my day. I felt so loved, thank you🙏😘

In lieu of this, I’d be sharing here 22 Life Lessons that have learned so far from relationship, friendships, parents, classmates, siblings, basically everyone that I have encountered in this life journey of mine. So, don’t go anywhere…. Enjoy.

22 Life Lessons in no particular order are….

1. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
2. Don’t compare your life to others’. There is no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it is their time.

3. Quality is always better than quantity. The less quality friends you have,the better. Having loads of friends that probably gossip, backbite and a bunch of heartbreaking stuff is pointless. 

4. I’ve learned to be friends with the broken. They know how to survive and have a depth of great love and understanding. I’ve learned that loneliness has nothing to do with how many people are around you but how many of them understand you. 
5. Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it’ll always get you the right ones.

6. The most important sex organ is the Brain.

7. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. Take charge.

8. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

9. Believe in Miracles.

10. Your sibling might exaggerate, be dramatic, create the most chaos that was ever seen, but you know that in the end, you’ll always be there for each other.

11. With my sister in another city separate from me😩,I’ve come to know this: Siblings might be distant and away from each other in different moments of their lives, but they’ll always be friends no matter what, friends that they didn’t have to choose.

12. There’s no shame in being wrong, and no defeat in saying sorry. Accepting when you are wrong and apologising for mistakes that have affected others is a necessary healing process for both parties involved. It also helps you become a more compassionate, kind person.

13. Life is too short to spend it living out the expectations of others. This is your journey. Make it your story.

14. Do your best not to mix business and friends, unless money is not the goal.

15. You need to have a real passion for what you are doing and the decisions you are making for these decisions to be worth it. Never make decisions solely on the monetary gain.

16. Make mistakes and remain a creative being. Mistakes are a proof that you’re trying. Being a creative being requires the ability to fail numerously, these fails eventually sum up your success story.

17. Time doesn’t heal anything, rather, it teaches us to live with the pain.

18. Exercise should be a daily priority for everyone. It makes you physically, mentally, and emotionally stronger. It improves your health and your outlook. 

19. Pleasing others for approval and acceptance might feel good in the short term, but eventually you will lose yourself and feel resentful. Please yourself first and give to others based on conscious choice, not the desire for approval.

20. The words you speak have power. Consider your words carefully. Use them for good rather than harm. Once they are out, you can’t take them back.

21. Don’t allow pain from your past (or present) to linger and cause you suffering. Don’t stuff it down or pretend it doesn’t matter when it does. Seek support from a professional trained to help if need be, talk to someone about it too if need be, just don’t let the pain linger.

22. If you want meaning in your life, start with serving others. Find a way to make a difference, even a small difference, and your life will feel purposeful.

Yeah FAM, I have learnt way more than these lessons but I have shared here according to my “scale of preference”, the very important ones. Feel free to add yours in the comment section, till next time…. Kisses😘😘😘😘

Love,

Ashabeé❤

Self-Affirmations to Imbibe Everyday

Hello everyone, welcome back to my blog and if you are new here..welcome to my blog. 

 A lot has been happening with me lately, my birthday is in 2 days time FAM….I am excited, I am grateful and I am enthusiastic.

 Talk of being enthusiastic, there’s no word that is useless. Words you say to yourself or people say to you radiate energy towards you(positive or negative energy) but really to me what you say/think of yourself has more effect on you. So here are a few of the things/words I say to myself..

** I am enough. 

** Everything will be okay and tomorrow is going to be a better day. This is something I tell myself in difficult times.

** I am not a failure. This I say to myself at times when I try something new and it doesn’t work out. This is to nudge myself to keep trying.

** I am worthy. My worth is not attached to my skills or beauty or outlook in general. I am worthy because am alive.

** I am beautiful and pretty. There was a time when this was really useful. I talked about one of times like that here

**I have a great body. Now, there are times when I look at my scars and feel like crying or just feel weird. I remind myself with these words that my scars notwithstanding, I do have a great body.

**I am a river of love. Yes, because sometimes I get angry at people around me, myself, I tend to push people away. But when I say this to myself, it helps me realise just how much love I possess and can give.

**I live in today but am confident of tomorrow. I have been feeling and thinking of what tomorrow has in stock for me lately especially cus I’d soon be +1, so yeah this has been in use lately.

**I inspire someone. When I tell myself this, I realise just how important my smile is to someone, it helps me to stay happy regardless.

**I am blessed and loved. God loves me and am blessed.

**I have a valid dream and they will come true. Real soon.

There’s no doubt I do have my down moments when am actually uncontrollable. Lol, but these are words of affirmations that get my head right in the game and keep me going.What do you tell yourself when you feel down? Feel free to share with me in the comment section, I can’t wait to read them.

Love,

Ashabeé❤

The Type of Friends You Need….

Hello everyone, its been a while… But hey! I missed being here. 

Friends, Friends, Friends…. We make some, and then loose some and then the cycle continues, lol. So, in my little experience of relationship with friends, I believe that there are just some friends that we really don’t need in our lives and there are some that are really worth keeping close. In this post, I’d be talking about those that are worth keeping.

Essentially, it is important to keep at the back of our minds that friendships are not a roller coaster ride and therefore, issues will occur as they are inevitable. So, this post is not to tell you that there won’t be problems but of course, that they are scaled through…. Together.

We have the Coach; this type of friend is most likely someone you don’t speak to all the time, but when you do, she recharges you and helps you feel more confident about your future. This type of friend offers you life training and/or advice from their own experiences to tell you that a bad phase you going through will pass. 

Then there’s the Comic Relief type of friend; ever need to unwind and cool off? Remember to invite them to the get away. With this type of friend, there is never a dull moment. Their presence lightens up your mood with smiles and laughter. This person makes you feel that there’s a good in every bad happening and helps you to laugh the pain away ultimately helping you go through tragedis with a positive mindset.

Ever feel like ranting about something that you are not pleased with? Or, you need to air your opinions about a topic that has got you sleepless? Get you a friend that listens, and is able to digest every word without misunderstanding you. The listener is a type of friend is trustworthy, they understand your pains and the struggle behind every victory. They are also very selfless in nature.

There’s the Intellectual friend too that helps you get past any academic block you experiencing. Not just academically, these type of friends are able to offer you insightful ideas and advice on any life challenge as well as motivate you to be yourself and stay original. 

Do you ever need to pass a message without having to talk? Or you ever want to say something without having to hold back on some words? You need a Soul Sister in your life then. This type of friends understand every gaze, smile, laugh and they can see right through you without you having to say a word. This can be your sibling- or a friend you met and clicked with while on a trip. With them, there are no boundaries and limits to what you can talk about. 
What type of friend are you? And have you found your Soul Sister? Let’s interact.

See you in my next post.

Love,

Ashabee❤

The Sunshine Blogger Award

So, this amazing blogger Aminat of Aminatawastories nominated me for this Sunshine award. Just when I thought I was only beginning and have not really gotten a hang of how it works. So, thank you Aminat for this nomination.

Here are the rules:

a) Thank the blogger that nominated you and drop the link to their blog.

b) Answer the questions from the blogger that nominated you

c) Nominate 11 bloggers and ask them 11 questions

d) Post a sunshine blogger award picture on your blog.

My Answers to Aminat’s questions

1) What is that thing that you have done this year that has helped your blogging career? 

What I have done this year….. Nothing much really, basically curate posts and put word out. For me, it has been more of “you can do it” kind of feeling with my blog.

2) Apart from blogging, what else do you do?
I’m a student, studying Human Kinetics. So, when am not blogging, I am reading a novel, studying, watching a movie, sleeping, or hanging out with friends.

3) Who/What inspires your creativity?
I tend to draw inspiration from what I see and hear, basically I inspired by the happenings around me from music, to love, to relationships. 
Speaking of who inspires me…. There are a lot of people that inspires me to mention but a few. There’s Jane Micheal Ekanem, Mo Abudu, Jennifer Oseh, Adenike Oladimeji and most importantly God. 

4) How have you been able to scale through some of the challenges you have faced this year?
I remembered that I have God. This year has been a roller coaster of ups and downs but remembering that I have a heavenly father who is always there for me every step of the way and all times gave me the courage that I needed to carry on.

5) What is that food that you can never get tired of eating?
I love chicken and I love plantain. But, I don’t think there’s a food I can’t get tired of eating, as too much of everything is not good.

6) Your best blogging tool(s)?
My best blogging tools will be the social media share buttons, as it helps reach a wider range of readers. This is why I always encourage my readers at the end of my posts to share and follow. The follow helps me reach readers that have probably forgotten about my blog and helps the consistent readers stay informed about a new post.

7) Your best social media platform?

Instagram is my favorite.

8) Your ‘go-to’ inspirational quote?

Consistency is key

9) What kind of posts do you always look forward to on this blog?
I really don’t have a particular kind of post I look forward to. I just click when there’s a new post update from Aminat because I know her posts are always so relatable

10) Five things you can’t do without in a day?
1. Pray. Because I am nothing without The Almighty’s constant Grace.

2. Food, considering that am a serious foodie

3. Surf the internet

4. Watch a movie

5. Take a nap

11) What fear keeps you up at night?
That the world will end and there will be no second chance.

That’s it lovelies. And I feel like the questions Aminat asked are basically what I’d like to know with the exception of some, here they are:

1) What is that thing that you have done this year that has helped your blogging career?

2) Apart from blogging, what else do you do?

3) What inspires your creativity?

4) How have you been able to scale through some of the challenges you have faced this year?

5) Your best photography tool(s)?

6) Your best blogging tool(s)?

7) Your best social media platform?

8) Your ‘go-to’ inspirational quote?

9) What kind of posts do you always look forward to on this blog?

10) Five things you can’t do without in a day?

11) What fear keeps you up at night?

Now I tag the following bloggers 

1. Wumi of Wumituase

2. Esther of EstherAdeniyi

3. Lade of Lade’sblog

4. Ebunoluwa of WanShyGirl

5. Fareedah of Thereedarh

6. Ifeoma of Drapedinbasics

7. Mary of LagosCityChic

8. Dammy of LifeofDammy

9. Cynthia of Abujagirlsjournal

10. Ijay of Ijaysworld

11. Tosin of Thetosintoge

Thank you lovelies for reading. Please don’t forget to like, comment, follow and share this post. Enjoy the beautiful new month, see you in my next post.

Love,

Ashabeé❤

Wake Up, Pray, Slay….Optimism

Currently listening to Sia “Unstoppable” because honestly that’s how I feel right now.

Sneak peak into why am feeling like that is partly because I couldn’t get to make a post last weekend because apart from being swung in the hustle and bustle of owanmbe (this is what we call a wedding party in Nigeria), I couldn’t get someone to help snap my pictures. **struggles of a blogger**. But hey, here I am (thanks to a friend)… Guess what? I missed my blog FAM!

Wake up, Pray, Slay…. Trust me I wish I could actually do that, but this studying will not study itself(if you know, you know…lol.

FAM, in as much as I would have loved to actually just “Wake Up, Pray, Slay”, I couldn’t but thinking of these actually encouraged the “optimistic Gbemi” in me(not that am a pessimist).

Speaking of being optimistic, do you know that sometimes all we really need is one dose of optimism to kick pessimism in the butt? Yes, kick its butt… Why? It takes away your Joy and Inner Peace.

Optimism is a mental attitude —a happy belief that the outcome of some specific endeavor, or outcomes in general, will be good(wikipedia). Optimists always see and think positively even in bad situations. Pessimism is the opposite of what Optimism is. Pessimists think negatively and expect unpleasant results.

Trending Post: Believe in Miracles: Be You

Optimism boils down to how we talk to ourselves and what we think, say, to ourselves. Basically optimism is the soul of Positive thinking.

The remarkable thing is, we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.”
 Choose today to be optimistic and thus positive about every situation you find yourself in.

Cheers to being optimistic FAM, see you in my next post.

Love,

Ashabee❤

Believe in Miracles: Be You

Hey lovelies,

Welcome back to my blog, thanks for all the love in my previous post… and if you are new here; welcome.

Am currently listening to Bruno Mars “Just the way you are”.

Speaking of being just the way you are; one thing I have come to realise and learn is that people will always have an opinion about you.

Gbemi, you talk too much; Gbemi, you care too much; Gbemi this, Gbemi that(fill your name instead). 

Truth is, despite all these…. There’s something in you that makes you unique.

My outfit: Denim jean and Shoes from aleshinloye market, Ibadan. And the Tee is a thrifted item I got from a lady while I was making my hair sometime ago. You can tell the Tee inspired this post, yeah it did.

Our names are different, and so is our being! There’s something about you that separates you from the crowd. We can do the same thing differently; the difference is how we go about it and that’s what makes us different.

” Find your own light”.

Put your heart to being you, make your own decisions. No one can be a best version of you; even if they try, the difference will separate you from the fake.

“Do not look for approval except for the consciousness of doing your best”.
People will speak down on your personality and try to paint a negative version of whom they think you are, they will try to manipulate you; but embrace you and don’t be shaken.

” The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white. Neither do you need anything but be yourself”.- Lao Tzu.

Personally, I believe I am good enough, smart enough,fine enough, and strong enough and no one can be compared to me. What about you?

Cheers,

Ashabee❤
  

Events||What I Wore x Independence F_Art_shion Show 2017

Currently listening to Adventure of a Lifetime by Cold play 🎼. 

Yesterday was fun at The Freestyle Edition of The Independence F_Art_shion Show held at The Palms Mall, Ibadan.

Being the very first Fashion Show I’d attend (am not ashamed to confess that)…lol, I was really excited to attend this event. 

I found the escalator runway to be really cool, as its not something you find shows do all the time (I uploaded a video here).
My outfit….. 

If you would like to see more of posts like this, do let me know in the comment section. Also, don’t forget to hit the like, share and follow button, See you in my next post.

Cheers,

Ashabee❤

Thriving + Independence Day

Hi lovelies, so sorry for been away for such a long time. Thanks for always stopping by, you all keep me encouraged. Thanks for the love, I love you too.

Its the beginning of a new month, Happy new month; and if you are Nigerian(like I am), you would also know today is Independence Day. Yass! So, am going to be sharing with you my thoughts on life and challenges. Enjoy!

Ever been in a dark tunnel before? 

When the sunset comes, it covers daytime with its darkness and after a period of 8-10hours, there is daybreak again. This is how life’s challenges are, like sunset.

Some of these challenges will test your patience, courage,strength, weakness and faith. Sometimes, these challenges are blessings in disguise; so how we face them is what determines the kind of outcome we get. 
Remember “You are the architect of your Life”.

Clarify and prioritize your life.

What’s the purpose of your life, and what steps will you take to do what you want to do with your time? Big changes and challenges give us a gift—the opportunity of a fresh perspective to reassess our goals and our purpose. It takes time to process and heal, but the answers will become clear over time.

We have so much power and so many tools to live as healthily and mindfully as we can, like meditation, worship, prayers,exercise, and positive thinking.

An optimistic mind will help encourage you to keep going, no matter what the results are; whether things turn out as planned or not. Brooding over spilled milk will only stagnate you and make you bitter. Instead, embrace it and look forward to better days.

Remember “Happiness is not a reward – it is a consequence. Suffering is not a punishment – it is a result.”

Finally ,when the tough times come,talk to someone who can help. This may or may not be your friends. 

What’s important is that you find someone who can bring peace of mind to the situation you are going through. God is the utmost ,share your problems with Him. May God bring ease to us in our days of trials and tribulations.

Have a healthful ,peaceful and rewarding day and a memorable Independence celebration.

Love,

Ashabee❤